Ever noticed how kids just don’t fight fair? This week Flo and I had a bit of a head to head and although she let me think I’d won the battle, it turns out I didn’t win the war.
When Flo started school I gave up my twice weekly sitter and with it my one ‘zen’ moment of the week when I went to yoga. A whole 90 minutes where the only thing to focus on was, ‘you expect me to do what with my leg?’ instead of all that other day-to-day crap. Unfortunately Flo’s mornings only school schedule, just didn’t fit in with my class. However, I had a plan. After the first term, once she had settled in, I would put her in for a full day just one day a week and get back to my yoga class. And it was all going perfectly until this Tuesday when..
“Mummy, am I staying for lunch today?” “Yes Flo, it’s mummy’s yoga class today.” Ommm!
To which Flo crumples her face into agonizing despair and breaks down into uncontrollable, hysterical, heaving sobs.
“Noooo, I don’t want to go, I miss my friends, I don’t like lunch.” At this point I could write a 10 page document on the complete exchange, but basically it went something like this:
a) Me trying to convince Flo that she would have so much fun, her response to which was to cry hysterically,
b) Me trying to ignore/downplay the whole thing, her response to which was to cry hysterically,
c) Me trying to issue a fait accompli, making the whole thing pointless crying about, her response to which was to cry hysterically,
d) Me trying to point out how unfair it was to ruin the one enjoyable thing I had each week, through her own selfishness (not my finest moment!!), her response to which .. ok I think you get the point.
Finally I managed to come up with what I thought was an excellent compromise.
“Ok Flo, so what if I tried to change the day you stay to Wednesday when Bob and Bit stay for lunch (Bob and Bit being Flo’s very best friends in the whole wide world). Flo nods with a thin watery smile through sobs.
“But if I do that, you will have to go to the gym kids club while I do yoga would that be ok.” More nodding.
So I organized with school to permanently change Flo’s full day and rearranged a number of my own plans. Flo would get to spend the day will Bob and Bit (Flo’s very best friends in the whole wide world) and I would get to yoga.
“Mummy do you have yoga today?” “No Flo, that’s next week, it’s lunch with Bob and Bit today remember.” “But I don’t want to go to lunch, I don’t like lunch, I don’t want to go to gym kids club, I miss you!”
Ommmm, must find peaceful place, Ommmm, must find peaceful place!